Self-neglect plays a vital role in understanding your addictive behavior and where it came from. Self-neglect is the outcome of childhood experiences where we lacked the proper attachment to our parents, and learned that our emotional needs do not matter. Forest Benedict cites a statistic that claims 97% of sex addicts were victims of childhood […]
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Forest Benedict, a pioneer in treating sexual addiction, believes group therapy is the crux of recovery. Sobriety may be achieved alone, but long lasting results that heal the core issues of sex addiction only come through group therapy. Sex addicts avoid group interaction because of the shame in their “diagnosis,” and their fear of intimate […]
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Many young people and adults struggle with various forms of Obsessive Compulsive and Anxiety disorders. Major symptoms of these disorders are intrusive thoughts and fears; they can often be plaguing, distressing, and senseless. For almost all types of OCD, the unwanted thoughts are combatted by a compulsive ritual: washing hands for fear of contamination, double […]
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When someone is trusting of another, often they will confide in them when they need to talk about an issue they may be working through or are worried about. Many people can relate to having a close friend or family member they can approach in a time of need. Conversely, sometimes that person could be […]
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Power struggles in arguments can become boring, frustrating, and lead to no progress. Do you sometimes feel beside yourself unable to communicate what you need? An effective way of communicating what you need clearly and concisely all while owning the content yourself is the “I” statement. It is a little more difficult to execute than […]
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Charisma is a trait many believe to be the most important when networking and meeting new people. Charisma is difficult to measure or definably describe but we all know what it is like to meet someone with charisma; they are tuned in to you, make you feel like you are the only person in the […]
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Losing someone, especially someone close, is never easy. It can be what appears to be a difficult never ending road. It is no secret that each and every person will have to deal with loss and the cycle of grieving and mourning. Moving through such a tragic time can be made easier and less scary […]
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Christmas. Expectation: spiced lattes and cozy weather; elaborate decorations and decadent treats; cheerful parties and family fun. Reality: missed holiday parties, angry friends, financial stress, and inconvenient weather. The picture we paint in our heads is so often different from the reality we experience, especially when it comes to Christmastime! While everyone’s “reason for the […]
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Ask open-ended questions. Avoid yes-or-no questions. Avoid “why” questions which block communication Use “what” and “how” Use minimal encouragement: Nodding of head, eye contact “Uh-huh” “Yes” “Go on” “And” “Because” Avoid rescuing. Allow the other person to have pain, confusion, sadness, and anger as part of their learning. Nurture without bleeding with them; keep objective. […]
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Assertive listening involves an active commitment to the other person. It requires your full attention,and calls for no overt act on your part, although eye contact and certain gestures– such as nodding– are often appropriate. Listening demonstrates your respect for the other person. It requires that you avoid expressing yourself for a time, yet it is not […]
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