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Mindfulness

Mindfulness

“Mindfulness is the aware, balanced acceptance of the present experience. It isn’t more complicated that. It is opening to or receiving the present moment, pleasant or unpleasant, just as it is, without either clinging to it or rejecting it.” -Sylvia Boorstein Within the world of psychology, the eastern thought of mindfulness has been gaining much […]

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Christmas is Here!

Christmas is Here!

Christmas. Expectation: spiced lattes and cozy weather; elaborate decorations and decadent treats; cheerful parties and family fun. Reality: missed holiday parties, angry friends, financial stress, and inconvenient weather. The picture we paint in our heads is so often different from the reality we experience, especially when it comes to Christmastime! While everyone’s “reason for the […]

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Attending Skills

Attending Skills

Ask open-ended questions. Avoid yes-or-no questions. Avoid “why” questions which block communication Use “what” and “how” Use minimal encouragement: Nodding of head, eye contact “Uh-huh” “Yes” “Go on” “And” “Because” Avoid rescuing. Allow the other person to have pain, confusion, sadness, and anger as part of their learning. Nurture without bleeding with them; keep objective. […]

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Effective Listening

Effective Listening

Assertive listening involves an active commitment to the other person. It requires your full attention,and calls for no overt act on your part, although eye contact and certain gestures– such as nodding– are often appropriate. Listening demonstrates your respect for the other person. It requires that you avoid expressing yourself for a time, yet it is not […]

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Listening is Loving

Listening is Loving

What is active listening? Listening actively rather than passively Participatory: you give feedback and respond Letting the other person know that you heard What does it do? Facilitates communication Makes the other person feel important Provides a place to air feelings and thoughts, non- threateningly Allows and encourages expression of thoughts and feelings Provides an […]

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So Why Did He Do It?

So Why Did He Do It?

I hear women ask their spouse after an affair or acting out sexually, “Why did you do it?” Men have a difficult time answering why. I’ve heard them say I am just“stupid”, “I just wasn’t thinking” or “ I don’t know”. They also blame their spouse, claiming that if they had more sex in the relationship, they […]

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